Colorblind-Counting Crows

I really love this song

 

Listen for Love

There are times when we are timid and shy about expressing the love we feel. For fear of embarrassing the other person, or ourselves, we hesitate to say the actual words “I love you.” So we try to communicate the idea in other words.

We say ‘take care’ or ‘don’t drive too fast’ or ‘be good.’ But really, these are just other ways of saying ‘I love you,’ ‘you are important to me,’ ‘I care what happens to you,’ ‘I don’t want you to get hurt.’

We are sometimes very strange people. The only thing we want to say, and the one thing that we should say, is the one thing we don’t say. And yet, because the feeling is so real, and the need to say it is so strong, we are driven to use other words and signs to say what we really mean. And many times the meaning never gets communicated at all and the other person is left feeling unloved and unwanted.

Therefore, we have to LISTEN FOR LOVE in the words that people are saying to us. Sometimes the explicit words are necessary, but more often, the manner of saying things is even more important. A joyous insult carries more affection and love within the sentiments which are expressed insincerely.

An impulsive hug says I LOVE YOU even though the words might be saying very different.

Any expression of a person’s concern for another says I love you. Sometimes the expression is clumsy, sometimes even cruel. Sometimes we must look and listen very intently for the love that contains. But it is often there, beneath the surface.

A mother may nag her son constantly about his grades or cleaning his room. The son may hear only the nagging, but if he listens carefully, he will hear the love underneath the nagging. His mother wants him to do well, to be successful. Her concern and love for her son unfortunately emerge in her nagging. But it is love all the same.

A daughter comes home way past her curfew, and her father confronts her with angry words. The daughter may hear only the anger, but if she listen carefully, she will hear the love under the anger. “I was worried about you,” the father is saying. ‘Because I care about you and I love you. You are important to me.’

 

We say I love you in many ways – with birthday gifts, and little notes, with smiles and sometimes with tears. Sometimes we show our love by just keeping quiet and not saying a word, at other times by speaking out, even brusquely. We show our love sometimes by impulsiveness. Many times we have to show our love by forgiving someone who has not listened to the love we have tried to express.

The problem in listening for love is that we don’t always understand the language of love which the other person is using. A girl may use tears or emotions to say what she wants to say, and her boyfriend may not understand her because he expects her to be talking his language. Thus, we have to force ourselves to really listen for love.

The problem with our world is that people rarely listen to each other. They hear the words, but they don’t listen to the actions that accompany the words or the expression on the face. Or people listen only for rejection or misunderstanding. They do not see the love that is there just beneath the surface, even if the words are angry. We have to listen for love in those around us.

If we listen intently we will discover that we are a lot more loved than we realize. Listen for love and we will find that the world is a very loving place, after all.

 

LOVE is a happy thing.
It makes us laugh.
It makes us sing.
It makes us sad.
It makes us cry.
It makes us seek the reason why.
It makes us take.
It makes us give.
Above all else it makes us LIVE.

It is not the presence or absence of people that makes the difference because a person need not be lonely even if he is alone. Sometimes it is good to be alone. But that does not make us lonely. It is not a matter of being present WITH someone. It is a matter of being present TO someone.

So remember…If you love someone, tell them. Remember always to say what you mean. Never be afraid to express yourself. Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets.

Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are today and are what it’s all about anyway.

~ Updates!!!~

I am so sorry I have no time to write recently.

 

We are in the midst of closing our peak after we reach the target for submitting the tax returns to IRAS by 31 July. Thank God, I can breathe for a while J

I am quite busy with my new courses as well, and it requires me to sacrifice three days out of five working days to attend the evening classes straightly after work. Mind you, that excludes my weekends. Usually I use them to do my laundry, attend the church service and study at home.

 

Many of my friends asked me,” Don’t you ever feel tired by exposing yourself into this condition? While the majority might feel fed up with those exams and lecture notes that everybody needs to face in every end of semester”

 

My answer would be there, implied by my message “I believe in the value of HARD work of doing the RIGHT things” I have decided to pursue another thing in my life. I did not do what my degree had prepared me to do. Simple answer, I just don’t like it. I just can not imagine in the next five years, I obtain my phD, while spending most of my time at laboratory, reading the whole stack of research paper and journals or become the manager of those engineers in manufacturing industry, working within the day and night shifts for whole stack of production, confined in that tiny place with the lousy looks and boring old Chinese people around.

 

 Although I can not predict if whether it is a right or wrong decision, I just simply won’t look back. As per my Director’s advice about my concern if I could only do half-way in the end-of-the-day, I have to look forward and take her message below in my mind,

 

”You have started your way to be …, Of course you should have some goals and target where you want to hold higher management position in our firm. We do require some technical qualities, in addition to relevant working experience. It’s either the degree or professional qualifications. In this case, you already obtained your first degree, although it is not relevant. Hence, I would recommend you to pursue professional qualification, because it is more practical and relevant to the industry. Being academically qualified doesn’t mean that you are professionally qualified at the same time. And this is the reason why people are still looking forward to obtain the professional qualification.”

 

“Sometimes, I ask myself too on why on earth I am still doing this. Do I have a lot of regrets in my life?  I have been in this industry for over 25 years already. I left my hometown to study at UK and obtain my ACCA qualifications there. Finally, I have decided not to look backward. Once I step into the new journey, I will take every new risk that will rise. There is nothing wrong with any of that, because there is no one else knows what he wants the most in his life, but he himself.”

 

Somehow or rather, I could find the reasonable answer that arises steadily in my head. Yes, I just simply won’t look back

 

I have been exposing myself too to read more and more, and it is not strange thing that manufacturing outlook won’t be better after our instable Global economy conditions.

 

Just as what MTI reports today,

 

“MTI said it expects to see job losses in sectors like manufacturing by year end due to a dip in labour productivity, reminiscent of cycles before.”

 

I hope this will get better soon, as I recalled there are a lot of my friends at my batch who are still unemployed until now. Just make sure that you are not played around by the gloomy Global Economy Outlook.

 

Till then at the next post

My Very First Post

Dear world,

Finally here I am, opening new blog account at WordPress again. Hope that you all are lenient enough with my dynamic mood to write here and there

 I decided to move again because of these several reasons:

1. I encountered one major problem between the Friendster and my internet service provider. It seems that it can not support the features appeared on Friendster Blog Applications. For that reason, I could not assess my own PAGE with my computer at home.
2. Friendster sucks. Along with its turtle speed, sometimes the loading time needs days and even more counts of time. I even could not open my Friendster profile for days last week.
3. I need to have some change managements. Friendster Blog Feature is boring and I bet it will still be the same now and FOREVER. Therefore, in order to keep moving and let my readers to get more excited to read, I need to have some provider that allows to further develop and apply those new features in my blog (music, tons of pictures).
4. I know that Friendster has one stupid policy where it will cause bounce of emails if I make amendments with the previous posts to my friend accounts. Friends, don’t get disappointed. It ends. Ah, finally!!!
5. I am sorry to forget my previous wordpress blog account. Hence, I made the new one :’(

Having said a lot about complains, let’s get back to the crux of the matter. I know what you are expecting folks!

New and Fresh Posts, here we go!!!

regards,

Mel-a